Ola!!
Been a while,
yes? mmhmm tell me about it! so, as i've been working on getting my sh*t
together, i have been doing constant reads; both fictional and reality. After
all, one can learn a lot from anything literally; perception is all.
I came across
this read on thoughtcatlog and hence i share..to all my girls, to all women,
time to liberate yourselves from all that stereotypical nonsense in the name of
culture and mannerisms and 'this is how women are supposed to be' , the time to
live is here girls!!
HERE GOES:
There’s a quote by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich that
states: “Well-behaved women seldom make history.” It’s a often posted on
Pinterest boards and slapped onto cards with women in 1920s-fashion kicking up
their heels in unison. But for me, this sentiment is more than encouragement to
go on a girls trip and go wild; it’s a celebration of women who choose to be
defined by their courage, bravery and decisions to go after the life they want
to live instead of being confined by “appropriateness.” Call them bold,
fearless, or powerful, these are women who light up a room with their magnetic
energy. They intimidate the close-minded and inspire those who have long
hungered for tangible proof that they, too, will serve themselves well by
igniting their passions and relishing in their independence. I know a few of
them very well and they have changed my life (and helped me to unleash my own inner
badass). Here are fifteen things alpha-women do differently:
1. They cultivate a life they actually enjoy living:
Whether they’re single, coupled or in that
complicated gray area, they commit to creating and living a life they love.
While they may not feel 100% comfortable initially, they push themselves to
take the class, book the ticket, try the restaurant and understand that life
won’t wait for them if they’re choosing to wait for a specific someone to enjoy
it with.
2. They make their move.
Whether it’s walking up to a stranger and saying
hello, putting in an offer for an apartment they want or asking their boss for
more responsibility, bold women would rather risk hearing “no” than sit on the
sidelines and hope someone else will bring them the opportunity they desire.
3. They don’t put themselves down.
Very few men and women walk this earth feeling
one hundred percent happy with their looks and life one hundred percent of the
time. But fearless alpha women accept the fact that there will always be
someone younger, smarter and thinner than they are and don’t stress it because,
well, that’s not the point. These women know they’re not defined by any one
attribute (and certainly not by something as small as a few dimples on their
backside.) They know they’re a whole package and that package
is so f*cking awesome it demands to be spoken about with respect.
4. They don’t need a boyfriend but they’re open
to having a partner.
In a world that treats singledom as a disease
that needs to be treated, it’s refreshing to meet a woman who’s not only OK
being on her own but unwilling to compromise the time she spends with friends,
on her career, or enjoying hobbies just to have any old someone in her life.
Fearless women aren’t looking for a savior, a benefactor or boy toy. In fact,
they are not even looking. The bold and fearless women is, however, excited
when she meets a man who understands her, accepts her, respects her, respects
himself and is looking in the same direction as she is.
5. They don’t waste time wishing.
We all have situations we wish would have gone
differently but a bold woman knows that the only thing the past can do for her
is serve as a lesson in how to do better for herself here in the now.
6. They call people out.
They aren’t the type of women who will sit
silently in front of someone feeling disrespected or violated and then cry about
it over cocktails. They will call those people out, set a boundary in place and
move forward right then and there.
7. They know when to walk away.
They know that bending themselves backwards,
forward (and backwards again) in an attempt to make something work — a
friendship, a relationship, a failed decision – usually means they’re investing
time and energy into something that isn’t offering respectable returns.
8. They expect FaceTime.
Witty text sessions can serve as fabulous
foreplay in-between dates but spending day-after-day texting a guy you never
meet? Fearless and focused women are not looking for pen-pals. Instead of
spending hours replying to winky faces, these women encourage face-to-face
contact because they know that any man who’s serious about them will want to
see their real smile in real time.
9. They give themselves a real chance to meet
someone.
Swiping right has it’s place and Match.com has
made some real-life connections, but these ladies know there’s a real value in
getting out into the world and having human interaction in a space that’s
supportive of an introduction. They enjoy the clubs with their girlfriends but
aren’t afraid to pop into a sports bar, networking event, museum opening,
gallery showcase or even a trip with a carefully curated guestlist.
10. They don’t pretend they’re on an episode of
“The Bachelor.”
Compete for a man’s attention and affections?
You’re kidding, right?
11. They also don’t pretend they’re a
Kardashian.
They aspire to be a star in reality over a
reality star.
12. They see themselves as an investment.
They take pride in themselves. From their word,
work ethic and reputation to their friendships, manicure and handshake, these
are the women who invest in themselves without the slightest bit of apology.
13. They don’t play the victim.
They know people will do things to let them down
and even screw them over — such is life. What they won’t do is re-live that
scenario a million times over. They know they are in full and total control of
how they react to a situation and when the going get’s tough, they learn their
lesson, roll up their sleeves and get tougher.
14. They dare to go for it.
Whatever “it” is — the job, the guy, the
bucket-list experience or adopting a baby on their own, these women think
things through, make a plan and bring their own unique idea of happiness into
fruition.
15. They would never put their lives on hold to
accommodate someone else’s idea of who they should be.
Instead, they get into the driver’s seat,
turn-up their favorite tunes and go in the direction of their dreams.
Liberate Thineselves!!
Love and Affection,
Nyandia.
