BOYS AND GIRLS, “Don't call anyone a devil because within you, you can experience hell and the devil, the devil is nothing, but you!”

Now, Guys Guys Guys where so I start when it comes to talking about this clan of Adam. Picture a scene which happens every day to millions of girls in the world. Boy meets Girl, Boy gets attracted to girl, girl isn’t interested and turns him down, boy badmouths girl to his friends insisting she is a loose, pot headed ugly girl. More than once, this has happened to me. I personally happen to be the very choosy ones and decided to chase and build my career before settling (Bae, I love you please don’t be mad) Many a times I also remember the very same bad mouthing boy coming back and begging most of the time in tears to take me out even just for fifteen minutes. This one time, guys who knew they had no chance with me told one of my very good friends that if he was sleeping with me as they were thinking, that he should use 2 condoms. Uh huh Boys can be so cruel sometimes even worse than girls. Scene 2: boy meets girl, boy convinces girl to date him and swears on his life that he would live each day to make her happy, boy gets clingy and obsessed soon after he is paranoid and hurls insults at her whenever he sees her talking to anyone of the opposite sex. Girl dumps boy and gets away, boy for months sends insulting messages to the girl even ten at a time for close to a year calling her all manner of names and cursing her. Happened to me btw.

Onto the girls…I am shaking my head as I type this. Members of the clan of Eve are known for bitterness among other thousands of positive things hehehe picture Scene1: Girl sees boy, boy doesn’t notice her and instead notices her friend. Girl asks her friend to keep away from boy as she has been told that he is a player. Scene 2: boy meets girl, boy and girl fall for each other, boy and girl are in an intimate relationship, sooner or later they break up for many reasons like they may not be right for each other, boy walks away and continues with his life while girl is busy spreading news of how he is 4 inches long, kisses like a fish and grunts like a pig when having sex. Girl may also happen to fall under the psycho character in which she lies she is pregnant to get the guy back.

Rumor and slander are pipes, blown by surmises, jealousies, conjectures. It is irresponsible, immature and ungodly. It is hurtful and painful to the object. Before talking, think first. Think about what you will say, how it affects you or the person, ask yourself if talking about someone adds any value to your life or lengthens your days. Take a minute and think of the other person’s feelings. Personally, I do not give a hoot for rumors. Been there done that and with time you either choose to let it affect you, infect you or let it slide. There is something that Joel Osteen talks about “The No-Stick anointing” you know of those expensive culinary pans which no food sticks on? Uh huh now relate it to a person. I have the no-stick anointing. Nothing anyone says or does sticks to me. I am too busy building my future and achieving my dreams at 22 years old. When I want to vent, when someone has done something really hurtful…I go down on my knees and cry to God when it is too much and when I need a shoulder to lean on, I call my bae and let it all out. These methods really do it for me. Try writing as well...it calms one down.
In the bible, Elijah and Elisha were walking and as you know, Elijah was bald and people would make fun of him while even pointing at him. It got to Elisha and he asked Elijah if he could go and shut them up. You know what Elijah said, “Let them talk. God will hear them and bless me for it” People wrong others forgetting that the same demon you create will also hunt you down. Remember, he who lives by the sword shall die of the same? Uh huh apply it here as well.
More than once I have fallen sick and had dark days at the places I’ve worked due to the Lupus. More than once I have had workmates tell my seniors that I am lazy and fake illness i have been fired from two jobs because of limitations caused by lupus. Oh if only they could spend a day in my shoes, they would trip. My attitude to situations is: Let them talk, God will hear them and bless me for it.
Boys and Girls, my lecture is over. Watch what you talk and respond only when necessary as words can seal your fate. People go through stuff and life just as you do. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you and above all, it doesn’t pain to be godly. Let people be. And to you who happens to be a victim of talk, have a no-stick anointing...words don’t stick unless you let them. The sooner you realize that you hold all the cards, the happier you will be. People make mistakes and it’s only bad if they don’t learn from them. And above all, Let them talk, God will hear them and bless you for it.
Love and Kisses,
Nyandia.