Boys and girls, in most cases both sexes tend to place the responsibility of their happiness on each other. First, nobody can give you happiness or teach you how to be happy. It must come from within. Second, a relationship filled with love but no respect is nonsense and you both need to grow up. Thirdly, this may sound very hypocritical coming from me but there is a reason God insisted on sex being in marriage only…think about it. Without sleeping with someone, we wouldn’t be as attached as we become to our partners hence leaving a toxic relationship would be much much easier. Without sleeping with someone, there would be no shame or tacky comments when you’re mad at each other. Without sleeping with someone, you would have every right to insist to your children on the importance of sex being in a marriage relationship and you would have yourselves as an example.
Everyone needs to be single for like a year or more in their lives so they can live fully and meet all sorts of people, discover themselves and learn how to be happy when alone before bringing someone else in the picture. Hundreds of millions of people have never been single. These people have no idea whatsoever on how to be alone and how to love themselves. Women in this group hardly do what they want without consult or approval by a male figure. They also have no idea on personal discipline and responsibility and have no idea on how awesome it is to buy your own furniture or fridge or food even. These people boys and girls, are the heavy souls who have to rely on their partners for literally everything including things that only God can give. These people are your parents, your siblings, your relatives, yourselves. These people hunger for much more than their partners can provide. At one time God will just lock his arms and let your partner who is your ‘god’ do everything.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all other things will follow applies to everyone and every situation possible. Loved ones, love yourselves first because if you don’t who will? If you do not know yourself and haven’t discovered yourself, why burden your partner to discover you? Why exhaust your partner emotionally, physically, mentally and psychologically? Be your own first Love.
Love and Kisses,
Nyandia.
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