It’s a cold Morning in Africa. Cold season of the Long rains
(April through July)…enough with the weather forecasting, lets deal with women;
yes, the Eve Clan. You want to know why he has never asked you out? Or even
worse, he asked you out but never asked you or talked to you again? Or why he
will never talk of ‘us’ though you two do everything that people in
relationships do; well almost everything. It is frustrating when you meet the
man of your dreams and he is the entire package but will not have much, if anything
to do with you.
A few reasons why this could be so…
- YOURE A LOUD MONSTER
I know I know!! But truth is some
guys really just into this. Some just want a calm warm soul for happiness,
relaxation and love. When first time a guy approaches you and you’re loud
mouthed, it can work either with/for or against you. Assess situations first
before bursting into loud blab, ok?
- HAIR
Oh yes!! The guys I happen to know
who are settled with their better halves, always opted for a natural woman. See
the raw beauty? Yes! Now I am not condemning the weave version of hair but how
you maintain it, speaks volumes. I actually never knew that weaves smell until thousands
of guys told me so…whoever thought men had a sense of smell!! Two weeks should
be the legal maximum for anyone to have a weave. Also with the natural hair,
treat it well, Dandruff is a turn off to everyone including your salonist.
- TANTRUM THROWERS
NOBODY likes this. Leave this to
children. Always making a mountain off a molehill, where do some of the members
of my clan get this strength from? My goodness it is so exhausting. Teach yourself
the habit of patience; throwing tantrums at work, at home, at the supermarket
over the minor of issues? Really? You need a shrink. To me, this causes fast
ageing, wrinkles and the ultimate dose of bitterness and I cannot afford to
have these things in my life. Ever!
- PARTY FREAK
I have never understood these
people who go out literally every weekend (weekends start on Thursdays). Isn’t it
unhealthy? And super exhausting and
expensive? Oh wait, girls who are into this habit do not buy their own drinks
or pay or their own cabs smh and you expect a decent guy to land from heaven
right into your thighs right? You Cheat yourself.
- POOR CLUB HABITS
Yaas!! You guessed that right. The twerknerds.
This is quite disturbing to most people including your fellow members of the
Eve clan. Twerk in the house if you must. But going into a club and rubbing
your behind on some random total stranger? Goodness! It is disrespect even to yourself
and among the highest forms of indiscipline. No serious man wants this.
- DRINKS TANK
Heheheh we all know someone who can
down an entire bottle of vodka and just get hyper. Worse and sad is if it’s a girl.
First date in a club scene or a restaurant with a bar and the dude has to
literally carry you home; you’re lucky if he will not take advantage of you. But
rarely will the same guy want to have something serious with you. Tone it down
a bit for your own sake and your futures’ as well.
- TOO EASY TO GET INTO BED
This is pretty self-explanatory
yeah? Most guys separate women into camps of ‘One Night
Stands’ and ‘Girlfriend Material.’ And though it’s not necessarily fair,
those ladies who are quick to bed sometimes end up in the former.
It’s simple as that.
- BEING BOSSY
Men
compare this mostly to being bitchy. Men love being in control and knowing that
they’ve got this. Don’t take this away from them worst while on the first date.
Wound a man’s ego and expect him to ever call you again or pick your call? Don’t
be weird; Hold my purse, Call that waiter, Ask for the bill, etc. Just don’t.
- YOU
CRITIQUED HIM
On the first date?! You must really love
cuddling your cat at night. Let the poor bloke be. He is probably testing you
as well. Learn to differentiate between flirtful teasing and being plaid mean.
Throwing snide comments about his chewing or his dressing worse even, his
choice of venue or food? Don’t do that. Learn to give the benefit of the doubt
knowing that people different and so are their preferences.
- YOU
NEVER SHOWED INTEREST
Now I am saying you should jump in the sack
with him ASAP or scream out how much you love him a day later, but if he took
it a notch high and asked you out and put it out there that he likes you, the
least you could do is show interest. Just the right amount. Women sometimes, we
entrap our own selves and the results hurt as hell, all in the name of pride or
being traditional or something weird like that.
So, next time that hottie asks you out; be
modest, be simple, watch your tone and your words. Be the best version of you
and with time that will be you. Keep in mind though that these aren’t always
the reasons he never asked you out…he may have his own weird reasons and issues
as well. Blog for another day, soon right?
Love and Kisses,
Your fellow Eve clan member,
Nyandia.
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