You know, I feel
for men who this happens to. But truth be told, you play quite a major role at
it. I personally do not encourage it and have actually been a victim both from
Men I have dated and from my own ‘friends’ and I have spoken to quite many
about this. I’ll break it down for you:
- You Let Them
First off, rarely can anyone hurt you without you letting
them. If you live your life; the dating life trying to please everyone and
anyone you date, giving them literally what they ask for, even your credit
card; don’t go around complaining you got dug. You let them. You gave them the
leeway, a free pass. No matter how hot she may be, let her know you’re not only
Mr. Moneybags but a human with feelings and emotions. Stop trying to buy love
and its benefits. You will end up at the loose end.
- Lazy
Why in the world do you men date lazy women, women who cannot
cook, women who cannot clean, women who don’t even know how to change a light
bulb? Women who, even for the most basic of needs like sanitary towels, will
always come for a handout? Women who ask you for weekly or Monthly allowances?
Who is to blame but yourself really?
- Ungodly
Now, first of all there is a difference between being godly
and a church-goer. Remember, even the devil goes to church. When you get women
who have no sense of a spiritual superior being in life and beyond, how do you
expect her to find anything wrong with expecting you to do everything? She may
not know right from wrong. Godly women, from my experience are disciplined and
have too much girl pride to go around begging for handouts all the time
especially when they can get it on their own. They look up to God, to
themselves and then to their men, in that order.
- Too Young
Surely when you’re dating a 16 year old, do you expect
anything but to be a Moneybag to her? With maturity and age comes responsibility.
A 16 year old does not even know how to fend for herself, she doesn’t even know
herself to begin with. Trust me, you will be more of a father-figure which is
worse and more disturbing, than a ‘boyfriend’ Get a mature woman who you can
relate to, who understands situations and knows what a struggle is, who
appreciates a day’s earning because she knows the sweat you have had to break
for you to get to where you are.
- You’re a Brat
If you’re the type of brat in the name of a guy who brags
about this and that, how you have the latest model in this, how your Mother
works in this office and your Dad holds this office, you should be gold-dug!
Maybe it will force you to get a brain and work for your own things and maybe
you will invest in personal development, discipline and maturity. Women smell
fakes and brainless studs from a mile away and given the chance, she will
pounce on the prey and will eat you alive.
- You’re a Liability
When you push yourself to a woman too much and for too long,
she will sense your desperation and she will do one of two things,
a.
She
will call the cops on you, cops being her friends, her brothers, her workmates,
her aunties, her crush, her BFF, etc. even the cops themselves until you leave
her alone OR
b.
She
will use you, misuse you and abuse you for you to leave her alone. She will ‘chop
your moni’ until there is none left to chop. She will bleed you high dry and
leave you hanging on your soles.
Learn to respect a woman’s response to your advances, else
well; don’t say I never told you.
- You're Weak
Yes, There. I said it. I do not know any man who roars in his
house yet is dumb enough to let a woman bleed his pockets. Strength begins in
the mind then to the body. Have the ability to say, ‘No baby, I will not give
you my credit card’ ‘Your overspending and you need to stop’, ‘I will cut you
off until you learn how to respect the hustle’ , ‘Pay the bills this month and
tell me how it goes’ Yes!!! Stand up for yourself, stand up for your balls and
finally and most importantly, stand up for your paper aka hustle aka mullah.
- You Lack self-control
If you’re the type of guy who cannot keep his eyes off a firm
bum, imagine what that firm bum will make you do when it is naked. Yeeees, you
feel me? Pray day and night for self-control else it lands you in trouble. How
and why do you think men are robbed by prostitutes (includes all who get a man
drunk to get him to bed then rob him) Women are smart. No one can argue that
and sometimes, they use this brain wealth for all the wrong reasons.
- You feed her
details of your financial status
If a woman is not your wife, why the hell would you show or
even mention your pay slip? To earn more respect? To earn more appreciation? So
she can see you’re a man enough? So she can see how capable you are? WRONG.
This will not register in a gold-digger’s mind. You may mistake her curiosity
for her caring about your life but for real, she is just sassing you out to
ensure that you can pay your way through the relationship.
- You have never
asked her to pay or let her
When you show a woman that you have it all under control
thinking it makes you a full man (whatever that means) and you never ever let
her pay for anything, then she might as well always look at you when the bill
comes up. Learn to let her be responsible every once in a while. Let her know
how to respect the bill and trust me, she will never misuse it.
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